Note: This entry is about how love can be created or hindered through right and wrong first impressions. This entry does not speak to situations where one or more people are being detained for a crime or for the purposes of intervention. In those cases the detainees should be kept for as long as is seen fit

The one thing that establishes a negotiator as a non-threatening entity is the fact that they enter a situation with their hands in the air and no (discernible) weaponry. This is a major factor in helping them establish credibility when creating dialogue with someone. The negotiator is thinking “I have nothing to loose. I am here to help you. I have no alterior motives”

The best way to establish loving relationships is by approaching like a negotiator. Think about it. Love is defined as meeting someone at the place of their need. In order to do this, you have to humble yourself. Your pride must be nothing. Your aspirations must be nothing. Your desires must be nothing. You’re going in with no weapons so ultimately your life must be nothing. This is the only way to become someone who has no underlying motives. Once you have no underlying motives, you’re free to put other’s needs ahead of your own.

Could Jesus’ crucifixion be compared to a lamb being led to the slaughter if he were packing an AK-47? No… I think not. He approached his fate with his “hands in the air”. He was the epitome of humility. Because of that, we can rest assured that he only had our best interests at heart and no one can accuse him of sacrificing himself for any reason other than absolute love.